Saturday, February 19, 2011

Disconnected!

It has been 19 days since I have been able to write.  It has been too long.  Stress has plagued my life in all areas.  I wish i was that person I was so many years ago... I struggle with the battles i have within myself over what i should do, or what can i do.  It frustrates me to know end.

I have not been here, for I have been at my daughters. I have been being the support that she needs right now.  This isn't easy, as I have to put myself on the back burner, but it is something I must do for the time being.  I don't have a problem mentally doing this, just physically doing it.  I guess mentally it has become very draining as well if I am honest with myself.  But how does a person say no when when your child needs your support.  The kind of support that just being there is what is needed.  There have been a few days I just had to hide, and she has respected that, so I think she is learning that yes, I can be there, but I may disappear for awhile.

I have also been having to help my parents out with a vehicle, so I just gave them my car.  I figured, well if this helps the situation, then it is worth it.  I worry about them, and of course I am the go to person in the family still, even though I think my oldest sister should be more involved.  Just because i live down the road doesn't mean i am available all the time.  Or that I should be responsible for everything that they need.  She only lives 40 miles away if that.  I guess that is what she said.  Boy she does not get it at all.  the burdens she puts on me are the ones that are so stressing, that I can barely handle it. 

I am feeling disconnected lately.  I don't know if it is a self-preservation mechanism, or if it is my meds.  With the million and one things going on in my family life it is hard to tell.  i have not used pain meds in two weeks.  I have just out-right refused because of having to be clear in the moment with everything going on.  Which has been good and bad.  Fake niceness on some days.

I really hate when people ask me how I'm doing, and I just say ok, then they say well you look good!  I don't look good, and I hate when people say that as if it is going to make me feel better.  Quit asking me how I feel every time you see me.  I feel like shit, quit asking, I always feel that way!  I have noticed this a lot lately, and it is really irritating and seriously, I'm in sweatpants, how do you think I feel?  Just say Hi..... I am ok with that.  You know you don't really want to know, and your just being polite.

I know this seems negative.  Maybe it is.  But right now i cannot handle anymore.  I am so disconnected, I just can't handle anything else.  I am feeling buried underneath a tree and the roots are holding me down, and pulling me in all these different directions of pain and suffering, as it keeps my brain from receiving oxygen and  I gasp for relief.

I will continue to survive.  My struggles are long and deep.  But I will go on.  I will Survive!


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